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[kassidy62]

I'm going to tell you what's going on with me. My husband lost his job at the end of July. He's been dealing with his mother, who has dementia, and has to be placed in an assisted living center. Luckily she has the retirement funds to go to a nice place and even bring her dog. Anyway, he's very stressed. Everything that can go wrong has gone wrong, and he's fighting every inch of the way to get things put right. His sister's in another state and can't/won't help.

We're in a situation where his mom's roommate (read: squatter) is almost more difficult to deal with than the whole mom situation. She's trashed the home, for one thing, and we can't have his mom going back there until she's admitted into the facility because the woman is poisoning m-i-l's mind, scaring her . She doesn't want her free ride going away. Like I said, m-i-l has enough money to go to a very nice place, but the house will have to go since there's still a mortgage on it, and in the condition it's in we're just letting it go back to the bank. We'd hoped to get m-i-l in the place as of last week but snafus kept on and on and on. She's at my mother's house now. Mom's really wonderful with her, and I am so grateful.

At the moment our money situation is extreme. Me, I'm sick and seeming to become chronically so, and I hate it with everything I have. The family needs me, not this shit, but I have to accept that I've got to take better care of myself or I'm going to be a liability.

However: my husband has a job interview Wednesday. Good pay. Maybe more travel than either of us want, but there you have it. Wish us luck?

I'm dealing with it, got a handle on it as much as I can and planning as much as I can. Things are so stressful. I guess I'm telling all this because I'm not around much lately, growing further away from it all. Just keeping a point of contact (or something).

Also, I'm very proud of my husband - of his patience and his doggedness to do the right thing in hard circumstances. And my mother has been incredible.

Comments

[lauramcewan.livejournal.com]

Oh wow, that is making for a crap year! I'm so sorry. All my fingers and toes are crossed that this job will be his.

For the mom part, do feel free to come and join this site: www.caring.com. You might find some info that's helpful in dealing with the house and assisted living and all. you can come to the Forums/Community, too - we've lots of great people there who've been there, done that, to advise as well. :)

(((HUGS)))

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks for the support, Laura:) I really do appreciate it. Just so wrung out and things have continued to go wrong, you know? I'll check out the caring site, thanks!

[dipslikeramon.livejournal.com]

Wishing you loads and loads of luck to come you way. *hugs*

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks for the support, god knows I could use it :)*hugs you back*

[lisaj67.livejournal.com]

Luck ,love and hugs coming your way hun xxxxxxxxxx

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks for the hugs and love - I tell you this, I'll take all I can get:))))

[hardboiledbaby]

Oh, babe, I'm sorry things are so tough right now. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Sending a truckload of positive energy your way. I wish I could do more, but you always have a listening ear here (just one of many). *hugs*

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

Things got worse but now they may be getting better (here hoping), and it was so nice, seeing friends in LJ land be supportive and reminding me that that you're still here:)

[oasis3017.livejournal.com]

I wish you luck. Better times are ahead, I'm sure.:-)

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks for wishing me luck, I appreciate it:)

[enednoviel.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear about your hard times. I'll keep my fingers crossed that things will get better soon, e.g. your husband getting the job! *hugs*

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks Marion - it's just nice knowing there are friends here, you know?

[enednoviel.livejournal.com]

I know. *hugs* I keep ranting in my journal, too, and it helps to know that someone is willing to listen and commiserate. ;)
Still crossing my fingers for your hubby!

[ashkevran.livejournal.com]

Sending you strength, positive thoughts and hopes for all good things through trying times.

-Angel

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thank you for the positive thoughts - I could really use them!

[troyswann.livejournal.com]

Sending good luck vibes your husband's way, and general good vibes to you.

*hug*

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the good vibes, and hope you're doing okay?

[igbc.livejournal.com]

So sorry for your troubles. Keep your chin up!

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I am trying to keep my chin up:))

[clarelondon.livejournal.com]

*big hugs*
That's such a lot to be coping with, I wish you the best. If you need to let off steam, just email me, you've been very supportive to me in the past. Good luck for your husband's interview.

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thanks Clare. See my icon? That's me:(

[lolabobs.livejournal.com]

That's a really difficult set of circumstances, I feel for you and you have my hopes and wishes.

I hope Hubby gets the job andthat things begin to turn around for you.

Much Love xxx

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

I know I'm not the only one having some difficulties, either - I hope things get better for you, too:)

[blackjedii.livejournal.com]

:/ I hope things will get better for you two.

[kassidy62.livejournal.com]

thank you - me too!

[librathree.livejournal.com]

Best wishes on life smoothing out again (it does tend to, usually) and your hubby getting the job ... if he doesn't, you might want to consider (I know not everyone is willing to do this and I understand why) to post what he does and what area you're in. You never know when a fandom friend just might know of a job opening. Hard to say, but it might open an additional door.