Oh wow, that is making for a crap year! I'm so sorry. All my fingers and toes are crossed that this job will be his.

For the mom part, do feel free to come and join this site: www.caring.com. You might find some info that's helpful in dealing with the house and assisted living and all. you can come to the Forums/Community, too - we've lots of great people there who've been there, done that, to advise as well. :)

(((HUGS)))